Manifest Your Dream Life With This Mommy Mantra
A few months ago, a new affirmation came to me.
"Be everything you want to be, and nothing more"
The arrival of this affirmation couldn't have had better timing. I've been insanely busy in the last few months, so I have zero time to spend time trying to be anything I'm not and/or don't want to be. Fortunately, I've been busy doing things that align with the woman I DO want to be, and that's only become more true since this mantra came along.
Let's deal with the hard part before moving on to the fun part. For me, the hard part is forgiving myself for not living up to other people's expectations of me, whether or not they align with my own.
I'm all for believing in the power of possibility, but as human beings with only 24 hours in a day we have to prioritize. There isn't enough time in a day to be a #momboss, develop whimsically Pinterest-perfect motifs for even the most minor holidays, maintain a fitspo-level physique, cook every meal from scratch (AND get kids to actually eat it), get an appropriate amount of sleep for a human person, read every book on the bestseller list, and stay up on Game of Thrones. Adopting the "chill girl" persona, described perfectly by Martine Thompson, sucks up even more time and it's totally useless.
Basically, as women, society expects us to live up to a ton of unrealistic standards. Throw in motherhood on top of that, and the expectations become even more unrealistic and constantly conflict with one another. What do helicopter moms and free-range moms, working moms and SAHMs, and single moms and married moms all have in common? There's someone out there who will say that mom is doing it "wrong."
The only way through it is to block negativity out and keep making decisions that align with what feels right to you. If your kids are healthy and taken care of (if they're not, email me and I'll help you find resources), tune out any voice that tells you you're doing a bad job as a mom.
Moving beyond cutting out the unwanted, how do we move towards becoming the women we want to be?
Here's an exercise to put the "being everything you want to be" idea into practice. Get out a journal and pen, open the notepad on your phone, start a Google doc, or whatever else you use to give order to your ideas. List 25 of your goals. Don't read the next paragraph until you're done.
Here comes the difficult part: circle just five of those goals. Cross everything else out. Align the ways you're spending your time with those five goals, and only those five goals. You'll have time for the other 20 goals after you tackle the five most important to you.
I'll admit I didn't come up with this idea, I stole it from a billionaire who apparently spends most of his day reading. Anyone who spends most of the day reading has done something right in my book, and I will gladly take their advice. In this case, that someone is Warren Buffet. You can read more about his "not to-do list" here.
Another exercise I'm obsessed with: vision boards. In my family, I'm notorious for never showing up to getaway without a pile of old magazines, scissors, double-sided tape and cardstock. Vision boards don't just help us clarify our intentions; they're daily visual reminders of what we're working towards.
As busy moms, we don't always have the bandwidth to dive into self-help or vision board making. Sometimes, the best thing we can do is raise our vibrations with good music that reminds us what a powerful women and amazing moms we are. Here's a playlist for just that purpose, created during my weekly 3-hour drive to New York, where chasing my own five goals keeps taking me these days.
Here's to being the women we want to be, wherever that leads us.